With sweet hints of fall arriving, let’s see what this first October week has for us with the next set of questions for week forty of 2018, challenging us with this month’s Recreation/Entertainment lifeskill. These questions are offered by Bob Tiede at At Leading With Questions, from wisdom leaders around the nation and world.*
Question 1: What is the difference between living and existing?
We all need to look forward to something. That is what makes the difference between living and just existing. Hopefully, looking forward to something has enduring purpose for our lives. And having fun definitely has its purpose!
In one of my article from last year (Never Stop Playing, Oct 27, 2017) Dr. Stuart Brown, founder of the National Institute for Play offers this perspective on play. “The opposite of play is not work, it’s depression. And I think if you think about life without play — no humor, no flirtation, no movies, no games, no fantasy, and, and, and. Try to imagine a culture or a life, adult or otherwise, without play. And the thing that’s so unique about our species is that we’re really designed to play through our whole lifetime.”
From Therese Borchard’s blog article, Why You Shouldn’t Stop Playing, Borchard personally declared “I’m beginning to think that playing can even access parts of our brain that are blocked to mindfulness, meditation, and cognitive-behavioral therapy.” Play is a central theme in her life as she copes with deep depression, physical exhaustion, a myriad of diagnoses, and continuous death thoughts. Play has rescued her from just existing to living her best for herself and others.
Question 2: Where would you most like to go and why?
If this question refers to traveling the world, don’t count me in. I am just too much of a nester. Most likely, my nesting preference has more to do with my health challenges and the daily disciplines required of me. But every once in a while I get an urge to know what it would be like to see those far away places like Ireland or a more nearby adventure like the Smithsonian.
Question 3: What have you read online recently that inspired you?
The Texas Hill Country is filled with so much fascinating history. I recently was reading online about a particular cemetery in Kendall County where African-American families were buried. My husband, John, is helping to document this cemetery. An historical cemetery application will shortly be submitted to the Texas Historical Commission, hopefully approved, and an historic marker installed at some point.
Question 4: What is your favorite song and why?
I have lots of favorite songs, mostly from the forties and fifties. Yet, at this moment as I contemplate all that is going on in our nation, my heart is comforted by Let Freedom Ring by the Gaither Vocal Band. The lyrics say it all. . . “Deep within the heart has always known that there was freedom, somehow breathed into the very soul of life. The prisoner, the powerless, the slave have always known it there's something that keeps reaching for the sky and even life begins because a baby fights for freedom. . . Some have walked through fire and flood to find a place of freedom, and some faced hell itself for freedom's dream. Let freedom ring wherever minds know what it means to be in chains. Let freedom ring wherever hearts know pain. Let freedom echo through the lonely streets where prisons have no key. You can be free and you can sing let freedom ring. You can be free and you can sing, let freedom ring, let freedom ring.”
Question 5: Why do we idolize sports players?
Being that I am not a sports enthusiast, I don’t find myself idolizing any sports player. There are many times, though, particularly when watching the Olympics, I find myself in awe of the players’ incredible feats of skill and courage. It is an amazing sight to behold.
Question 6: What is the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?
I have done any number of spontaneous things. Some included just simply giving someone a call to say hello. Other times, I get an urge to create something in the kitchen from scratch, without a recipe to follow. However, my most spontaneous thing just doesn’t come to mind at the moment.
Question 7: What experience from this past year do you appreciate the most?
Last year when my daughters were visiting us, they both said they will take care of my husband and I whenever we are needing them as we continue to age gracefully. Hopefully, we will both stay independent as long as possible but are so grateful for their offer for the years ahead.