While we wait for hints of fall coming, let’s see what this third September week has for us with the next set of questions for week thirty-eight of 2018, challenging us with this month’s Childcare lifeskill. These questions are offered by Bob Tiede at At Leading With Questions, from wisdom leaders around the nation and world.*
Question 1: How many of your friends would you trust with your life?
I include my family in this question. I would trust my husband, daughters, and sister most definitely. There are two life-long friends, Carolyn and Judy, also have my enduring trust. When I think about childhood friends, it is hard to recall one to include. I didn’t have many friends as I was growing up, a few possibly. Yet, those friendships were never sustained after high school. I was fortunate to encounter my husband-to-be shortly after high school graduation that started our life journey together.
Question 2: Who do you dream about?
Dreams are often like a summer breeze floating you along some magical and mysterious path. Dreams can also offer moments of insight. Though, we need to be cautious of giving them too much importance when it comes to decisions made each day, particularly at significant times in our lives. This is equally true when it comes to relationships.
As a teen I found myself daydreaming about what my occupation would be or that one-and-only showing up on my doorstep. I even sometimes dreamed about myself being a famous artist. As life always surprises us along the way, I didn’t really become famous, but I did pursue a profession as a fiber artist for most of my adult life. Fame wasn’t to happen, but fulfillment did. And that was more than enough.
Question 3: What has been the most terrifying moment of your life thus far?
The most painful and chilling moments in my life was from childhood sexual abuse from my father. The memories were graciously blocked from my childhood years. However, those memories began to return in adulthood through fragments of dreams and daytime thoughts that flashed before my mind and heart.
I have been most grateful to God for having those traumatic childhood memories take their time. God knew just how and when to prepare and strengthen me for those memory moments to return. For anyone currently going through any painful, even terrifying moments of your past or present, may you experience the comfort and safety you need along the way to healing your heart and life.
Question 4: How would the world be different if you were never born?
This question is almost impossible to answer, as you can imagine. So, that’s how I will attempt my response. I imagine one thing for sure. Somehow, my husband would meet someone else to share his life. The girls did like him! And he would also probably end up being a forest ranger somewhere in the great and beautiful outdoors.
He would also travel around the world much more than he did with and without me. He loves an adventure! And I bet he would still end up with daughters who would love the great outdoors as well.
Question 5: What is the most valuable life lesson you learned from your parents?
From my mother, I learned perseverance in the face of difficulties, even crises. I also learned the hard way one cannot avoid facing those difficult things. When we avoid facing those challenges they only grow into bigger ones. On the lighter side of life, Mom loved to laugh to compensate for the deep oppression and sadness she often lived with. I only wish I saw her laugh more often. But that was more because I just wasn’t around much at all, particularly once I married and landed in Texas. Here is yet another lesson learned. . . don’t let the moments pass you by with family and friends.
From my dad, I learned forgiveness. Only God could gift me with that kind of forgiveness. Another lesson learned was I never wanted to ever cause pain for someone else. Life is too short and unpredictable. Along with owning my own choices and actions, I wanted with all my heart to know how to impart kindness, encouragement, and faith for those struggling.
Question 6: What is your earliest childhood memory?
With my responses to the previous questions, I hopefully answered this one as well.
Question 7: What is the greatest peer pressure you’ve ever felt?
I was fairly shy throughout my childhood school years. And peer pressure came in the form of not belonging. I so wanted to be part of the “fun” group. I even signed up for high school drill team and prom committee! And since my dad worked at Paramount Studios in Hollywood, California, I had access to any of the props at the studio for the prom. I became part of the “fun” group for a short time period until I didn’t want to go “partying” and “drinking” with the group. With both parents being alcoholics, I knew that world up close and personal.