Powerful Questions for 2018 . . . Week 35

posted in: CYJ Blog, Lifeskills, Meals

For some, summertime went by much too fast. For many parents, they are so glad school has started! But before September says hello, let’s see what this August week has for us with the next set of questions for week thirty-five of 2018, challenging us with this month’s Meals lifeskill. These questions are offered by Bob Tiede at At Leading With Questions, from wisdom leaders around the nation and world.*

*Source: Marc Chernoff’s list of questions,
Thought Provoking Questions to Ask Yourself in 2018.

Question 1: What would you like to change?

I would love to improve the meals served at school. Check out top chefs online, such as Daniel Giusti, pioneering healthier school meals.

Question 2: What’s the most important lesson you’ve learned in the last year?

Don’t let food be a stumbling block to relationships. I honestly didn’t know I was avoiding opportunities for a new friend by assuming I wouldn’t be able to eat the food prepared at the meeting. I also assumed I would make others uncomfortable when I try to explain.
Not letting food be a stumbling block doesn’t mean I can ignore what is required to support my digestive tract and health.

It simply means I just needed to relax, go to the gathering, and discover that people will understand. I found when I did, there was often someone there in the group who also had their own daily disciplines and foods to say “no thank you” to. Once I gave a brief explanation, listened to their response, I found it easy to simply change the subject, not wanting to be the center of attention. The only time the subject continued is when someone in the gathering wanted to share their story with someone like myself who understands those disciplines all too well.

Question 3: What type of person angers you the most?

I find it very sad and upsetting to see a person judge another who may not eat the way they do. Every culture and family have their type of foods familiar to them. We all were raised with certain food and mealtime traditions. They may not be the healthiest. Yet, we need to remind ourselves that with every mealtime we often have very personal memories of earlier times with family and friends. None of us can escape the connection between family, friends, and food.

Question 4: What is one opportunity you believe you missed out on when you were younger?

Happy mealtimes with my parents. My childhood was a rough one, accompanied by verbal and sexual abuse. The only time I remember even coming close to mealtime with my parents was on a Sunday afternoon when Dad would barbecue and not be drunk. Most of the other days in the week, he came home smashed from work and the nearby bar. At about eight or nine o’clock, he demanded dinner from Mom. We had already eaten and were usually hiding in our bedrooms.

Question 5: In one year from today, how do you think your life will be different?

I know I will definitely be a year older! And hopefully wise enough to enjoy each moment and meal of the day with family and friends.

Question 6: Whom do you secretly envy? Why?

It all seems too obvious. This question relates to one in the previous article, Week 34, asking who would I want to be for just one day and why? Although I said I would like to just be myself, I must admit, I still would envy anyone who can eat anything without health consequences.

But dear readers, you already know many of my muses from following my byline! For any of my reader friends and newcomers, feel free to check out my website blog article, and subscribe. I would love for you to keep following along. Current and past articles are filled with all my lifeskill ponderings written for the past 13+ years and still coming!

My “why” could fill a book or two! Oh yes, I did write my story and lifeskills journey, In Daddy’s Eyes, and Celebrating Your Journey, Lifeskills in Synergy! Both are available at most any online booksellers.

Question 7: What simple gesture have you recently witnessed that renewed your hope in humanity?

It was great to see someone in the military being approached thanking them for their service and sacrifice. This may seem like a simple gesture, but let none of us pass up the chance to do the same. Whether you are at the grocery store, restaurant, gas station, please express your thank you to them. Even take the opportunity to pay for their groceries, their meal or gas. Both of you will never forget the gesture.

Now, it’s your turn again to consider what you want to change, an important lesson you learned, who angers you, an opportunity you missed when younger, who you secretly envy, and what simple gesture did you witness renewing your hope for humanity when you think of “meals” and your life.