Powerful Questions for 2018 . . . Week 32

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Let’s see what this hot August week has for us with the next set of questions for week thirty-two of 2018, challenging us with this month’s Meals lifeskill. These questions are offered by Bob Tiede at At Leading With Questions, from wisdom leaders around the nation and world.*



*Source: Marc Chernoff’s list of questions,
Thought Provoking Questions to Ask Yourself in 2018.

Question 1: When does silence convey more meaning than words?

At your dinner table, has there ever been complete silence as you and your family were eating? For a few, it just may mean all is right with their family and the world. Yet, for most of us, silence at the dinner table can mean something entirely different. Silence for these families can hint that someone isn’t happy with something and trying not to burst it out.

What do you think may be going on at your dinner table? Are you frustrated, angry, sad regarding someone sitting across from you? Or did something happen at school, work, or when simply driving down the street? If it’s someone across the table from you, maybe it is best to remain silent during the meal.

Hopefully, this silence will give you time to calm yourself and find a way to respectfully talk with that person later in the evening. I know when upset about anything, my digestion doesn’t handle it well when discussed during mealtime. When asked what is wrong, I try to simply say, “Let’s talk about this a little later, ok?” I also try to focus on something positive during mealtimes for everyone’s benefit and enjoyment.

Question 2: What’s the biggest lie you once believed was true?

That I could eat anything without consequences!

Question 3: What are your favorite simple pleasures?

To be able to have a Snicker’s bar occasionally, as long as I get back on my mealtime/food regimen.

Question 4: What three questions do you wish you knew the answers to?

Why are families not eating meals together on a regular basis? I just don’t think the standard response “We are just too busy” is the real reason.

Why is it so hard for some to eat healthy and actually enjoy it? One possible reason among so many others I am still trying to unravel is quite simple. People don’t slow down enough to decide what is most important for their family’s health and wellbeing. A crisis typically has to occur to get our attention. We also tend to reach for unhealthy comfort food in the midst of a frustration, life challenge, or even crisis.

What will it take to improve school and restaurant food? Short of petitioning, protesting, and boycotting, what ways do you see helping our schools and restaurants do a better job. How can they offer food that is appetizing as well as more healthy, particularly for our children? It seems in this generation the children decide more often what they are going to eat rather than the parents.

Yes, children as they grow, have certain physiological considerations that often determine what to eat and what to avoid for some time. However, a healthy eating pattern in their early years can often help the body to avoid certain unhealthy and allergic problems in the future.

With my own wellness journey since childhood, I can personally attest to the importance of healthy, nutrient-dense whole foods . . . not just a sugary cereal box on the shelf or steak, potatoes, and pastries in the freezer!

Question 5: What is your greatest strength and your greatest weakness?

When it comes to food and meals, my greatest strength is to maintain the daily disciplines. My greatest weakness is when I have really good days one after the other, I am tempted to indulge in higher quantities of foods, particularly those I should stay away from, like sweets on a repeated basis.

Question 6: What makes you uncomfortable?

I am uncomfortable when someone offers a meal I cannot eat. There are also other times when someone wants to have us over for a meal and asks what I can and can’t eat to accommodate my restrictions. Their care for my wellbeing is appreciated and commendable. Yet, it still makes me uncomfortable that they must go to so much trouble for me.

Question 7: What will you never give up on?

In spite of those temptations to waver, I will always be committed to the daily food/meal disciplines. Why? Because I simply feel better when I stay on track. I am grateful I can indulge a little on rare occasions, knowing I will immediately get back on track. I’ve been on this track for almost 40 years now and has become a natural part of my daily life.

Now, it’s your turn again to consider what silence means to you, your favorite simple pleasure, three questions you wish you had answers to, your greatest strength and weakness, what makes you uncomfortable, and what you will never give up on when you think of “meals” and your life.