With only one more week left in July, let’s move on to the next set of questions and see how we respond to week twenty-eight of 2018, challenging with this month’s Wellness lifeskill. These questions are offered by Bob Tiede at At Leading With Questions, from wisdom leaders around the nation and world.*
Question 1: What is the meaning of ‘peace’ to you?
When everything is going well, it is so easy to feel like we are at peace with the world, ourselves, and everyone. Yet, if we are to be honest, true peace is available to us no matter the circumstances. Again, we come to a crossroad, a choice to make, don’t we? Our emotions, whether happy, sad, or angry, will always be there coloring the circumstances in our lives. Our emotions are part of who we are and give us an opportunity to choose peace.
Question 2: When do you feel most like yourself?
I feel most like myself when I am in the middle of an inspirational moment writing, weaving, or helping someone succeed. Yet, one of life’s greatest challenges for us all is to be fully present in whatever we are doing. We are then more likely to feel most like ourselves each moment, not just occasionally.
Question 3: Where do you find peace?
As a segue to question one above, I find peace when I choose peace. My circumstances and emotions may not match or make it easier to choose. I also find it essential to first put aside any feelings of unforgiveness, lack or scarcity, and focus on an “attitude of gratitude.” A sense of calm, contentment, and peace then say hello. My emotions, thoughts, and even physical wellbeing also improve overall. It’s a nice place to reside, rest, and refresh.
Question 4: How do you find the strength to do what you know in your heart is right?
There are times when it is easy to do what is right, when my mind and heart is already prepared and ready. The people involved are also ready to do whatever needs to be done. Then there are those times when just about everything and everyone involved are not ready or passionately opposed to whatever needs to be done. I find this particularly the case with our healthcare system when seeking wellness alternatives. Over the years, I needed strength and courage to seek alternatives my doctors knew nothing about or strongly opposed. Fortunately, I found integrative medical providers who helped me gain courage, knew the territory, and made all the difference.
With any life area, I always have a choice to make. My hope is whatever I need to do will be done with respect and compassion, no matter how hard it may be.
Question 5: If someone could tell you the exact day and time you are going to die, would you want them to tell you?
No way! I would also find a way to distance myself from that person. No one knows that day except God. And being a loving God, that day is held back so we can fully live each day with courage, faith, hope, and love. I don’t believe any human being should place themselves in that position of predicting anyone’s passing, even a doctor. There was someone I knew who was actually told by a self-proclaimed prophet they would shortly die. That so-called prophet, more of doom, showed up in a small town looking for women to travel on his cruise ship.
When my friend declined, this man wasn’t at all happy about it. Her friends and I had a long conversation about “cult” behavior clues that helped her see what was going on. Her friends also rallied around and helped protect her. This so-called prophet shortly left on his cruise ship for another port. So, the next time someone tries that on you, walk away fast! Tell your trusted friends. You may also want to report that person to the authorities.
Question 6: What would you do if you made a mistake and somebody died?
This question is a painful one to even consider. I would hope with all my heart my mistake was not connected in any way with someone dying. We all need to be very careful about giving out advice or an opinion. One never knows how that advice or opinion will impact the person. This doesn’t mean you never give advice or an opinion when requested by a friend or person in need. I learned through my life coach training and clients over the years to make sure they accept personal responsibility with any decision or actions they take. I always wanted to hear them say it out loud and even in writing. That way they can revisit their acceptance and accountability when needed.
Question 7: How short would your life have to be before you would start living differently today?
This question relates with Week 27 question, “If the average human lifespan was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?” I believe I would live my life the same way no matter how short my life would be. I would probably just do things a bit earlier. As with Week 27, I would also find myself more focused and determined to accomplish whatever my purpose was for being here.