Let’s ramp up this month’s lifeskill and see how we respond to the next seven questions for week twenty-seven of 2018. As with all the questions this month, they will challenge us with this month’s Wellness lifeskill. These questions are offered by Bob Tiede at At Leading With Questions, from wisdom leaders around the nation and world.*
Question 1: If a doctor gave you five years to live, what would you try to accomplish?
This question is very personal to me. My whole life since childhood has been one of health challenges putting my life at risk at any point in time. Out of necessity I stepped up to what was needed to be done to seek, reach, and achieve my highest wellness potential. So, I would first challenge the doctor attempting to predict anyone’s length of days. Only God knows that homecoming day. And with that at the center of any health challenge, I continue my wellness journey of hope, faith, and discovery.
I continue to learn that every morning gives us a fresh day of new mercies to receive and explore. We will then, hopefully, not allow anxiety, fear, and the dire predictions of doctors to rule the day. And since none of us can predict the future, today and this moment is the time to be in the right place and the right time accomplishing what is before us.
Question 2: Do you think crying is a sign of weakness or strength?
I believe crying can be a mix of both so-called weakness and strength simultaneously. Why? Because crying elicits certain cues that a person is hurting from some emotional challenge/trauma and/or physical pain. Crying is also a signal of feeling vulnerable or what some call “weakness.” It depends on how you define “weakness.” What do you connect with the term, weakness?
Is it connected to feelings of shame, guilt, fear, disappointment? With these darker feelings, we could all leap to believing we are incapable of dealing with whatever is going on inside us. We end up connecting our feelings with failure and consider them a liability that need to stay hidden. That is why so many cry alone, hiding away.
Yet, crying can show others you are being courageous risking that vulnerability. I highly recommend Brené Brown’s book, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Feelings and vulnerability are not good or bad. They just are what they are and give us an opportunity to experience strength, courage and confidence with every challenge. When we step up to face whatever it is, our body, mind, and emotions come in synergy. We just may find ourselves also more physically strong and healthy at the same time!
Question 3: When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
Definitely. I have the best intentions when some exciting and creative idea pops into my mind. Then time passes, and another idea pops up. I discovered how important it is to know one’s own personality style that often rules behavior. My personality loves to be creative and encourage others to achieve their dreams and goals. In the past, when a bit younger, I found myself skipping around each idea and adventure without finishing what I started.
As the years past and energy waned, I learned from necessity to prioritize my wandering brain in order to finish the chosen idea and plan. I also regained needed physical energy previously spent on other distractions. One of my more focused projects was to finish a self-paced lifeskills manual for others. And I did! Check it out on Amazon or other online book sellers, Celebrating Your Journey, Lifeskills in Synergy. You can also follow me on my blog.
Question 4: If the average human lifespan was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
I think the paths I took would be the same but just a bit earlier for each life phase. Possibly, I would also find myself more focused and determined to accomplish whatever my purpose was for being here.
Question 5: What do we all have in common besides our genes that makes us human?
We all need to be accepted, feel safe, and significant.
Question 6: When was the last time you listened to the sound of your own breathing?
Today. I try to listen and be aware of my breathing particularly in exercising.
Question 7: What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
As mentioned in previous articles, for the past 30 plus years I must live a very disciplined life. With my daily routines, including eating patterns, exercise, and other wellness requirements to improve and maintain my health, Integrative Medicine physicans and practitioners made all the difference.