As May gets us closer to school closing, summer fun is just around the corner. Let’s see how we respond to seven questions for week nineteen of 2018, challenging us to relate this month’s lifeskill, Possessions. How does your “stuff” touch your life, day by day, year by year? These questions are offered by Bob Tiede at At Leading With Questions, from wisdom leaders around the nation and world.*
Question 1: What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?
When it comes to not having my possessions or “stuff” that give me the chance to do what I love to do, regret would definitely be a downer. I have no idea what I would do if I couldn’t weave, write, or create websites. I have just too much fun doing all three. Life is so much more enjoyable when we are doing something we love to do. At my age now, part of me adapts fairly well to not being able to do something.
I would probably be sad, even pout for a while. Undoubtedly, my creative side would eventually kick in to find a substitute that satisfies. So, while I can still weave, write, and web, onward with this article! Thank you computer! Then back to my weaving loom in between my web creating!
Question 2: If not now, then when?
Since this question has been planted in this month’s lifeskill, Possessions, I know my closets are screaming at me to declutter. I have already ignored your pleadings, dear closets, for a few years now. It’s just too easy to simply throw something in the closet and close the door. Out of sight to out of mind!
Ok. I promise to get to it soon. When? Possibly by next Friday. Yes, I know. It sounds just like another dodge. But aren’t we all in the same procrastination predicament at some point along the way? Yet, now that it is written down for the world to read, I am sure I will get “helpful hints” every time I walk into my closet each morning and evening!
Question 3: When you help someone do you ever think, “What’s in it for me?”
Helping someone without self-centered motives, I always gain a smile and sense of joy every time. Those times when I think “What’s in it for me?” I try to place it in an appropriate relationship context. I get caught in between sometimes wanting to help someone without strings attached; and knowing, particularly in a business relationship, I am giving away my skill worthy of compensation.
I must ask, whether personal, business, or combination of both, “When helping someone, what is the most appropriate action for this relationship?” When I pause to reflect on this question before helping, the outcome usually always is a win/win for both. Whether I walk away with just a smile and sense of joy or bucks in the bank, we both know something good just happened.
Question 4: What is the nicest thing someone has ever done for you?
Many years ago, a very sweet friend did something so special. I was writing my autobiography, In Daddy’s Eyes, and struggling with several chapters. Some of the memories were hard for me to put into words. So, my friend volunteered to help. She brought over a tape recorder, turned it on, and started asking me questions.
She said my responses flowed so easily when simply having a conversation with her. My friend, Linda, then said, “Type what you said on the recorder.” And that is what I did. I will forever be grateful for all she taught me about being vulnerable yet courageous in sharing my story.
Question 5: What book has had the greatest influence on your life?
I could say my story, In Daddy’s Eyes. Writing my story was incredibly cathartic for healing body and soul. Along the way, there were also so many books others have written that made all the difference in my recovery journey. My story really cannot take the credit.
The credit belongs not just to all those who shared their own transformative story and expertise. The core or foundation for gaining the courage to take each step comes from believing in that ancient book, The Bible, and God’s promises for me that lit up those pages.
When the pain in the body and soul were so great, I never knew what the next day would bring. Yet, when I read a verse or phrase just at the right moment, I found myself in the center of hope and faith for the future. With trust and gratitude, I continue to reach each day for those promises.
Question 6: Where else would you like to live? Why?
There is no other place than right here in this beautiful Texas Hill Country and the precious town of Boerne, Kendall County. Why? For the beauty of the hillsides and the heart of the people.
Question 7: If you had to move 3000 miles away, what one thing would you miss the most?
My husband, if he couldn’t move with me. But that will never happen! We are stuck together like supernatural glue!