Let’s see how we respond to the first seven questions for week five of 2018, challenging us with this month’s lifeskill, Time Management. These questions are offered by Bob Tiede at At Leading With Questions, from wisdom leaders around the nation and world.*
Question 1: When was the last time you tried something new?
When it comes to my daily routines, it seems like I am trying something new every day. With my food rotation regimen to maintain my health, I always find ways to improve my recipes. When I exercise, I may add either more time or movements to increase core strength and aerobics. And every week I am writing another byline article or designing a new weaving project, which are always a new adventure for me!
Question 2: What do you wish you spent more time doing five years ago?
I wish I spent more time with my sister who lives in California. But this year is the beginning of a new tradition. I am hoping she will come to Texas to stay with me right around the Fall season. I guess this new tradition also answers question one.
Question 3: What can you do today that you were not capable of a year ago?
I am expanding my fiber art designs beyond functional wear to wall and three-dimensional pieces.
Question 4: Which activities make you lose track of time?
Losing track of time is easy when I am weaving or creating a new website for someone. Anything creative takes me on a timeless journey in thought and action. Another way I lose track of time is when I am with my best friend, Carolyn. We always play catch up and find so many things to talk about and do together. Time simply fades away from our consciousness.
Question 5: When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards and just do what you know is right?
This reminds me of one of the questions from week two of last month’s lifeskill, Relationship & Core Values. The question was “Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?” As I mentioned, I try not to worry about either. I believe doing the right thing always offers us the opportunity to do things right. Knowing the right thing is one of my main core values and, therefore, helps to not only sufficiently calculate the risks and rewards but also when and how to take action.
Question 6: In the haste of your daily life, what are you not seeing?
On days when the “to do” list seems almost overwhelming, I sometimes get lost and confused on what is most important to do at any moment. The list tends to control my daily life rather than what is most important. I then miss seeing what I need to see. There is also a vicarious satisfaction in checking off each task in the order listed. But life doesn’t happen that way, does it?
I believe we all have learned the adage “haste makes waste” can apply here when uncertain about doing something at the right time, in the right way. We then find the need to “pause” and “reflect” on what is more important for that day and situation. And what seems urgent is not necessarily more important. The task could possibly be moved to another day. Daily life then seems to calm down on its own. To pause and reflect is even more important when there is pressure from others at work or home to get something done. I am the only one who can decide what is best for my own wellbeing, balancing the needs of others.
Question 7: If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
There are many things I may not like but must do. Yet, there are some things I dislike I don’t really have to do. Since life does seem short, particularly at my age, I try to filter those dislikes as they relate to what is important now and in life. If I do too many things I don’t like, my time is lost.
Time is not the only thing lost. My focus, energy, and overall wellbeing are at risk. Again, the importance of “pause & reflect” cannot be overstated. I have discovered with some things reluctantly done, I later find myself liking what I was doing. With care and compassion wrapped up in “pause & reflect,” a healthy balance can be achieved. But remember, we never can please everyone. Yet, we can still be kind and respectful in our “no thank you.”